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Divorce and Relationship Coach
“I help people and couples to heal, accept, forgive and move forward after infidelity.”
Specialist in narcissistic abuse and relationship trauma. “Supporting people to heal, forgive themselves and learn to love again.”
Be the best person you can beand live the life that you want and deserve
Life is tough at times and it can be difficult to overcome the challenges that we are faced with.
Sometimes, it helps to know that someone is supporting you through these challenges to help you find your inner strength, confidence and become the best version of ‘you’!
I am passionate about helping people with their break-up …….
I also help and support people with low self-esteem, confidence, anxiety, trauma, abuse and chronic illness.
Think Positive, Be Positive, and Positive Things Will Happen.
Hi! My name is Fay and I am a certified Break up, Separation and Divorce Coach.
I have lived and worked in Burton and the surrounding areas all of my life and have 2 children whom I adore!!
I studied for my certification under Sara Davison, who is the leading expert of break up, separation and divorce in the UK (if not the world!!). I want to share all the skills and knowledge I have gained, help people gain control of their lives and find the happiness that they deserve.
I believe that everyone has the right to feel positive, be happy and live the life that they have always wanted.
Going through a break-up, separation and divorce is one of the most stressful and painful things you can go through.
Everyone experiences a breakup differently and will struggle with different things and different emotions at different times. It can seem like an uphill struggle, especially if you can’t see things getting any better or feel you have taken a step back.
I contacted Fay a few months ago after seeing one of her FB ad’s. I was in a very unhappy marriage and was reeling from the realisation that I probably needed to get out of it. With two children, and a domineering husband I didn’t know where to start. I wasn’t sure if this was how I even felt. I just knew I felt entirely lost, so unhappy and I needed someone to help me make sense of my thoughts and find clarity and courage. That’s exactly what Fay did.
During my initial chat with Fay she made me feel so comfortable. Not judged, not stupid. I knew instantly this was a lady I would be able to talk openly and honestly with. Over the coming weeks and months, i had regular sessions. Fay understood the dynamics of my relationship. I consider myself to be a fairly strong, independent woman, and as such have found the concept of acknowledging that my marriage was emotionally abusive very difficult. There were times I had to be brutally honest with myself, I found that challenging but cathartic, and Fay supported me through this, reminding me of some of my home truths and original goals as I progressed through the weeks and months.
It has not been a linear journey from A to B, and Fay has been there every step of the way. Supporting me with my regular sessions, and fitting me in at short notice at those times when life became unpredictable. Fay allowed me to explore my feelings, in a safe non-judgmental space, funneling down into where my feelings stemmed from, and allowing me to make sense of them all by myself. She has helped me to put things into context, helped me in reclaiming my self esteem and confidence, and has been a reassuring voice letting me know that it has been okay to feel all the emotions i have felt. Her insight and understanding of my situation has been invaluable – advising me on what behaviour I might see from my husband. She amazed me with this – often these behaviours materialised and as such I was as best prepared for them as I could have been. In what has been a heart wrenching and soul searching experience, she has been a reassuring and empowering influence. The upshot is that I have built up the courage to leave my husband, confident that i am doing the very best thing for myself and my children. She continues to support me during this process, and I genuinely don’t think i’d have found the strength or courage without her.
I met Fay at a local networking event I felt an instant warmth around her.
After 3 failed marriages and a break up with a long term partner, I decided I needed to understand what was happening and how I could feel good about myself again, in the hope one day I could forgive myself and others and start to love myself again.
Fay was so understanding and helped me realised I was stronger than I realised. She gave me some great advice and even sent me an affirmation to remind me of the strength that was within me. Highly recommend Fay 5 stars.
Having met with Fay on several occasions I have found the experience to be both beneficial and long lasting. Fay has a way of making you think about an experience or emotion to recognise the impact it has had on you in a positive light. This in itself can be challenging but also proves to be enlightening. She has many tips to help control negative thought behaviours and help keep anxiety at bay, enabling you to reflect calmly. Calm reflection is what is needed during challenging times and Fay enables you to do this with her guiding hand.
I would highly recommend Fay. Going through a really difficult time, Fay has always been there, a great listener and great coaching skills.
If you need help and support to get through a difficult time in your relationship or divorce, don’t do it alone, get in touch with Fay. The best thing I have ever done!
Fay is amazing. I found her after my husband of 32 years had an affair. It was an utter shock when I discovered this, but after a few weeks apart we both decided we wanted to give our marriage a second go. My way of dealing with this was to ask him every question I could think of, email after email night after night I would send. It wasn’t working well as you can imagine but once we meet with Fay amongst other things, she suggested writing everything down in a journal instead, wow such a simple thing to do but worked miracles for me. She never took sides or applied blame she just offered a hand to help us try and solve our problems .
One of the main reasons I picked Fay was that she worked on empathy, which my husband was sadly lacking towards me. She got him to open up in a safe space and talk about his feelings for the first time since the affair and we grew to understand the reasons behind the affair. She helped us to communicate with each other, something we couldn’t do without fighting .
Now we feel we have the tools, thanks to Fay, to continue on our own to rebuild and make our marriage stronger. We will still be seeing her in the future for top up’ sessions when needed to keep us on the right path with our marriage. I can’t thank her enough for all her help and advice .
WHAT I OFFER
• Target Setting
• Exercises that include positive thought processes.
• Walk and Talk therapy
• Relationship Coaching
• Guide you through the process of break up, separation and divorce.
• Help you decide whether you want to stay in the relationship you are already in.
• Support you in making positive and lasting changes in your current relationship.
• Support you as you get back your mojo, find your inner god or goddess and get back into the dating pool.
• Chronic illness
• Abuse within toxic relationships
• Low self esteem
• Negative thought patterns
Email or call to make your first appointment today!
My Journey to Feel Positive Coaching
Two years ago, I found myself single for the second time in my life, to say I was surprised was an understatement. I had two children, one from each of my marriages and had no idea what I was going to do or how I was going to do it.
My life had once again imploded. All the memories and feelings from my first marriage breakdown came flooding back and I’m not ashamed to say that it nearly broke me.
I wondered whether I could carry on. I had no self-worth and no confidence. I had dealt with infidelity, narcissism and abuse. I was suffering from anxiety and panic attacks, which was later diagnosed as PTSD. I was a complete shell and was just existing on a basic level – all my feelings had just shut down. I loved my children and that was it.
Things turned around for me when I made the decision that I was not going to let this beat me. I was going to do all that I could to move forward. Even if it meant just being a mum to my children and going to work (I was and still am a part time primary school teacher).
I sought help for my mental health issues through a counsellor (break up and separation practitioners didn’t exist where I lived). I was able to work though my feelings and get clarity on my situation.
I moved to a new house which was the best thing that I ever did. It allowed me to have a complete fresh start.
I also booked myself on a yoga retreat in Mallorca which was a big turning point, I felt free for the first time in my life and I have never looked back. Travel and Yoga are now a big part of my life.
I am passionate about helping people through their breakup and can tailor make programmes to suit individual clients. Through exercise and meditation, mind exercises and techniques, strategies to move forward, target setting, listening and above all walking along side them as they climb their own mountain.
I also help people who are struggling with chronic illness, low self-esteem, confidence, anxiety and trauma. As well as dating!!
Mental health is such a buzz word now. I am a great believer that looking after your mental health is as important as looking after your physical health. If one is not working, the other suffers.
The Feel Positive ethos is all about being the best person you can be and living the life that you want and deserve.
Going through a breakup, separation or divorce is not the end. It’s the start of something new and an exciting time to design the life that you want!
Setting up Feel Positive has been a huge learning curve and an absolute joy, to be able to do something that I love and to give back to others is very empowering and humbling at the same time.
From someone who didn’t have a technical bone in her body to someone who tweets, posts on Instagram, Facebook and writes blogs has been a revelation.
I feel very blessed and see my life challenges as a huge learning process to get me to where I am today.
For 90 minute session
1/2 price session
for New Clients either 60 or 90 minutes
For 60 minute session
Mini Online Sessions
Contact me for prices and availability.
Coaching verses Counselling
However, even though they both share similarities, they are very different.
Counselling helps people with issues like human development, sexuality, family dynamics, past traumas and mental health conditions through active listening and skills such as open and closed questioning and empathy. Counselling enables the client to recognise and find the solution to their problems in order to gain clarity and solve them.
Coaching provides both guidance and support and places a greater emphasis on accountability, by helping people to make positive changes to their life quicker than if they were doing it on their own.
Get in Touch
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